magnolia high

I have always wondered what made Eve say yes to the serpent in the garden that day. Just as daughters blame their mothers for all sorts of things, I blame the first mother for the very existence of the serpent! I fuss and ask her “What were you thinking?!”

[Stick with me! I promise this post is not about animals!!]

In the following passage, we see that the difficulty to say “No!” even plagued the world’s first woman! This pressure that we feel to say “Yes” began with a forbidden fruit tree in the Garden of Eden.

Now the serpent was the most cunning of all the wild animals that the Lord God had made.

He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You can’t eat from any tree in the garden’?” 

The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit from the trees in the garden. But about the fruit of the tree in the middle of the garden, God said, ‘You must not eat it or touch it, or you will die.’” 

“No! You will not die,” the serpent said to the woman. “In fact, God knows that when you eat it your eyes will be opened and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

Then the woman saw that the tree was good for food and delightful to look at, and that it was desirable for obtaining wisdom. So she took some of its fruit and ate it; she also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made loincloths for themselves. – Genesis 3: 1-7, HCSB

On a recent morning stroll, I noticed how lovely the magnolia trees were. The blooms were simply magnificent. Their fragrance was intoxicating. The smooth green leaves shone like patent leather against the stark contrast of ivory-white flowers. The beauty of the unfolding flowers on a sea of green simply took my breath away.

For a moment, my head was spinning from the sweet smell drawing me closer. I drew a sharp breath and steadied myself against the magnetic forces drawing me towards the tree. I was inhaling so deeply, like I could capture all the fragrance in one breath.

I could only focus on the tree. It was like I was “under the influence” of an aroma and on a “magnolia high!” 

As I was fighting temptations to climb the tree and live there, because that seemed like a great idea, I decided to cut Eve a little bit of slack. If that forbidden fruit tree in the Garden of Eden smelled anything like this blossoming magnolia, then I totally get it! Y’all, girlfriend must have been high too! Yes! A ‘magnolia high’ completely explains her senseless behavior. If my theory is right, then who can blame her?

Back to the story:

Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden at the time of the evening breeze, and they hid themselves from the Lord God among the trees of the garden.

So the Lord God called out to the man and said to him, “Where are you?” 

And he said, “I heard You in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked, so I hid.” 

Then He asked, “Who told you that you were naked? Did you eat from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” 

Then the man replied, “The woman You gave to be with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate.” 

So the Lord God asked the woman, “What is this you have done?”

And the woman said, “It was the serpent. He deceived me, and I ate.” – Genesis 3:  8-13, HCSB

I am curious how Eve felt in the aftermath of her ‘high.’ Surely, a wave of emotions must have swept in and engulfed her.

Was she overcome with feelings of guilt for saying yes and taking the fruit?

Did she chide herself for even talking to the serpent in the first place?

Was she disappointed with herself for not seeking her husband’s input first?

Did she and her husband argue about the whole encounter later and for days to come?

Do any of these questions sound familiar? How often do you regret decisions that you have made?

Whether it is rash or well-thought-out, the decisions we make can haunt us for years to come, especially when the outcomes are not favorable. The scenario will play over and over in our minds, as we play our different endings and better choices we could have made: “If only I had done this…” and “things could have been better if I had only said this…” These mind games are exhausting!

The opposites of decision are hesitation and indecisiveness; both are often projected negatively in our culture. Why are these words associated with weakness?

If a conclusion to a case cannot be reached, more evidence is usually gathered. The same applies to a verdict in a court of law. Should the same principles not apply to determinations we must make in our personal lives? Perhaps some hesitation and time to think could lead to healthier decision-making.

Views of Eve range from a ‘weak woman’ to a ‘strong woman’ who had a moment of weakness. My perspective has softened over the years, and now, I simply think of Eve as a fellow woman! We have all found ourselves in sticky situations and regretted rash decisions that we have made. Her story is no different!

My hope is that we may learn a little something about ourselves and others from Eve’s story. The truth is that we all make mistakes; no human is perfect! We are so quick to judge ourselves and others around us.

Take time to think a decision over, especially when the answer is unclear. Beware of intoxicating situations and temptations. My friends, God will never tempt you or lure you in with a fleeting blessing. Anything He places before us will be steady and unwavering and never a tease. It will not come with an “act now, hurry while supplies last” feeling.

I trust that our God wants to truly bless us! He delights in giving us the desires of our hearts! (Psalm 37:4)

After all, forgiveness of SIN is the whole reason that Jesus came to earth! In his death on the cross, He paid for ALL OF OUR sins … past, present, and future!

That, my friends, is GRACE! Amazing, unwavering, unquenchable.

Now, let us take that remarkable gift of life that He gave us and, in turn, extend that same loving grace to both ourselves and to those around us.

HCSB = Holman Christian Standard Bible

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The other morning I was sitting outside, drinking coffee and enjoying the beautiful weather. I had my Bible open and was reading the day’s lesson in my study group’s current series, A Woman Who Doesn’t Quit: 5 Habits From the Book of Ruth by Nicki Koziarz.

Someone walking by stopped and looked from my books to me and said, “Oh. You are doing your spiritual part of your life.” After I replied, “Yes, I’m doing my Bible study lesson,” and he walked on, I kept thinking about his words.. doing .. your .. part of your life..

This person has known me for many years and has been a regular church attendee for as long as I have known him. His comment was not one that I would expect from a fellow Christian. Something just did not feel right about his awkward words and behavior.

Two questions kept running through my mind:

(1) Does my faith in God encompass my entire life and being or just “a part” of it?

As Christians, we are commanded to live out each day in a Christ-like manner, displaying the love of God in every facet of our lives. As I strive to meet this commandment, am I exuding the love of God in all my daily activities? Do I walk each day on the path God has laid for me?

(2) How can I encourage fellow Christians to seek a [more active] relationship with God?

Going to church does not equal having a relationship with God. I have many Facebook friends; however, I do not have a personal relationship with each person, only the ones that I engage with in community and fellowship. God desires more than Facebook friend status; He desires for us to be actively engaged in a personal relationship with Him. Yes, He wants a personal relationship with you, with me.. not just a select few of us, but everyone!

The following passage is from the letter written to the church at Phillipi. In it, the apostle Paul reminds the community of new believers that the goal they are striving towards is Jesus Christ, trusting Him and knowing Him in a personal relationship. Faith is strengthened within a community of believers working towards a common goal and encouraging each other along the way. Paul suggests that practice makes perfect, as he urges the church to imitate him in his walk of humble dependence on Christ.

“Not that I have already reached the goal or am already fully mature, but I make every effort to take hold of it because I also have been taken hold of by Christ Jesus. Brothers, I do not consider myself to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and reaching forward to what is ahead, I pursue as my goal the prize promised by God’s heavenly call in Christ Jesus. Therefore, all who are mature should think this way. And if you think differently about anything, God will reveal this also to you. In any case, we should live up to whatever truth we have attained. Join in imitating me, brothers, and observe those who live according to the example you have in us. For I have often told you, and now say again with tears, that many live as enemies of the cross of Christ. Their end is destruction; their god is their stomach; their glory is in their shame. They are focused on earthly things, but our citizenship is in heaven, from which we also eagerly wait for a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ. He will transform the body of our humble condition into the likeness of His glorious body, by the power that enables Him to subject everything to Himself.” -Philippians 3:12-21, HCSB

Let your faith infiltrate every part of your life. Let the perfect love of Christ absorb into every fiber of your being. Allow God to work through you and display His majesty in all that you do. Encourage one another to walk in faith at all times and to seek the leading of God. Set good examples for fellow Christians to follow, and mimic the Christ-like behaviors you see others displaying. We become what we practice.

HCSB = Holman Christian Standard Bible

bye. grudges, part 2.

I wrote earlier this year about grudges (see Grudges make smudges. ) and the energy they can deplete from your being. A grudge will hold your joy hostage before you ever knew what happened. Now that I am (one year older. one year wiser.), I have learned even more about the long-term effects these grudging ailments will have on your health. They are not worth your time, only your goodbye!

The day will come, even after you have diligently “spring-cleaned” your heart of any known grudges, that an old grudge will bubble to the surface. It may be older than your grandma, but still feel as fresh as a new baby. DO NOT STRESS! This horrifying, and possibly embarrassing, moment of recollection is NOT a sign of early onset dementia or temporary insanity.

I struggle to identify the revealing source sometimes, but if it is the work of the enemy, I am certain that God can turn that evil to good. He can use the upsetting memory as a way to prune you, to cleanse your mind of hateful thoughts and shameful memories, and ultimately draw you closer to Him. These blasts-from-the-past may be brought to light because they are a barrier between you and God. Ouch! Let it go, sister!

There is a catch. He only heals what we reveal. Anywhere that our hearts have hardened, the LORD can renew and refurbish, but only if we are willing to acknowledge our wrongdoings and repent. God forgives all things. We must just ask Him.

“The LORD is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger forever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him.” – Psalm: 103:8-11, ESV

Read these words of assurance again, and again. Know that God loves you and will forgive you. Know that his grace and his mercy extend further than your eye can see and your mind can comprehend. Know also that God only wants His best for His children. He corrects us in love, so that we can grow closer to Him and the perfection He planned for us.

Take heed of this spoiler alert: this is where the enemy enters the scene:

“Be sober-minded: be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” – 1 Peter 5:8, ESV

What? Ole Pete just put “lions and tigers and bears, oh my!” to shame! Total stalker status.

YOUR ADVERSARY (as in someone against you) is prowling around just looking for someone to destroy. In the words of my mother, “Horrors!” He is just watching and waiting for a chance to prance on you, to catch you when you are down and not on your guard. What better opportunity for his attack than when you are pouting about getting scolded?

Although it may feel like God is defining your impurity, He is actually refining your purity.

Hang in there, and remember that trials will come. We will be tempted and tested, and we will stumble and fall. By the grace of God, stand back up and seek His forgiveness. Repent and let it go! His love covers all things, even the dreadful grudges we may hold.

 ESV = English Standard Version Bible

 

 

let them see love.

This post is inspired by another one of my new tanks from the light blonde shop. I am borderline obsessed with all these super cute tees and tanks hand-made by a fellow Jesus-loving lady. Y’all must check it out!

How are we, as believers, showing love to others in our day-to-day lives? Do we, as Christians, display behaviors that align with the Word of God? Do we treat both believers and non-believers with the same mercy and love that Jesus showed us?

L E T    T H E M    S E E    L O V E.

How we treat each other can be a truer display of God’s love than any testimony we can write. Our actions often give an unfiltered truth louder than any words we can speak.

Let them see love … by speaking truth and kindness.

“Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit.” – Psalm 34:13

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1

“These are the things that you shall do: Speak the truth to one another .. do not devise evil in your hearts against one another..” – Zechariah 8:16a-17a

Let them see love … by keeping your mouth shut!

We have always heard: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Turns out that is biblical, and we cannot ignore what our mamas told us!

“Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips!” – Psalm 141:3

“Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of understanding remains silent.” – Proverbs 11:12

Let them see love …  by reflecting the light of God that is within us.

Jesus is the “true light” that shines into every heart that believes in Him. God overcomes all darkness in our lives with His light, bearing love and mercy and grace (John 1:9).

“You [who are in Christ] are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In she same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” – Matthew 5:14-16

“So then let us cast off the works of darkness and put on the armor of light.”- Romans 13:12b

“.. come, let us walk in the light of the LORD.” – Isaiah 2:5

Let them see love … by being a humble servant to those around us.

“Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace.”- 1 Peter 4:9-10

“.. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for  ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.'” – 1 Peter 5:5b

“Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord… Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.” – Romans 12:8-11,16-17

Let them see love … by welcoming others without judgement.

JUDGING AIN’T LOVING! God has accepted us just as we are, and he also accepts others just as they are. He does not ask for our help in matters of judgment. He only commands us to “love our neighbors as [ourselves]” (Matthew 22:39).

“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus,” – Romans 8:1

“Judge not, that you not be judge. For with the judgement you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.” – Matthew 7:1-2

CHECK YOURSELF! Take a step back and make sure your words and your actions are speaking love to those around you. Make sure you are aligned with God and walking in His will for your life. If not, humble yourself and ask for forgiveness and direction. He will provide. He is faithful and just and the sole author of genuine and unfaltering love. 

All passages in this post are from the ESV (English Standard Version) Bible.